10 Problems Only Narcissists Have

As much attention as narcissists receive for causing trouble, most people fail to acknowledge just how limited their life experiences can be. Narcissists can manifest as bullies, bad bosses or coworkers, and even toxic partners. You’ll frequently encounter these individuals in positions of power, where they can make your life far more challenging than it should be.

Today, however, we will shift our focus away from the harm narcissists inflict on us and instead explore what they do to themselves. This ranges from their inability to admit when they are wrong to their almost complete lack of understanding about what drives the average person. Prepare for some eye-opening insights in today’s discussion.

By the end of this article, you will gain a better understanding of what goes on in a narcissist’s mind, making it easier to defend against their peculiar attacks and comments.

Number 10: Rules don’t apply to them.

Humans are social creatures, which is why we continually engage with others. This interaction has given rise to a set of written and unwritten rules that dictate how people should treat each other. While these rules may vary depending on your location, most of us can appreciate and comprehend them, particularly in professional or workplace settings.

However, narcissists often struggle to grasp these rules, making them relatively easy to identify. They tend to be much more self-centered than the average person, believing that the world should conform to their rules, not the other way around. So, the next time you feel frustrated by a narcissist’s frequent interruptions or their refusal to do something that would make your life easier, remember that this disregard for rules is a core aspect of their worldview, not a personal affront.

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Number 9: They crave compliments.

Narcissists are inherently superficial, caring greatly about what others think, even if they’d never admit it. They usually lack a strong sense of self and often attempt to mold themselves into whatever might impress those around them. This can be exasperating in environments where you interact with them regularly, like a classroom or office, as they constantly focus on impressing you or your colleagues.

What many people don’t realize is how fragile a narcissist’s self-esteem truly is, which is why they keep seeking confirmation that you find them cool, smart, or funny. They often do this by asking your opinion on their outfits or recounting their past awards and recognitions. It might seem counterintuitive for someone who is entirely self-absorbed to seek approval from others, but narcissists rarely adhere to logic.

Number 8: They fixate on first impressions.

We all understand the importance of making a good first impression. It’s natural to want to present our best selves when meeting someone new. Fortunately, first impressions usually don’t carry as much weight as we might think, as people value getting to know someone on a deeper level beyond that initial encounter.

Interestingly, narcissists are the polar opposite. They often lack the desire to reveal more about themselves beyond their initial interaction, which can be tedious for friends who soon realize the narcissist is not as captivating as they initially seemed and that they are unwilling to share more about their lives. While some people may enjoy shallow conversations, the average person quickly grows tired and moves on.

Number 7: They assume everyone loves them.

While the human brain can be complex, there are some general principles that can make it easier to grasp. One universal truth is that our brains tend to hold on to negative thoughts longer than positive ones, which can be a problem. Most of us, when we notice mixed signals from someone, engage in a dialogue or adjust our behavior to improve the situation. But for a narcissist, it’s far too intricate. They assume people like them, even when the reality is more ambiguous. When they detect mixed signals, they are more likely to attack the perceived offender than to consider they might be at fault.

Number 6: They prioritize themselves over others.

At times, we all face difficult decisions that require weighing various factors. When making choices, we need to consider the potential consequences and how they might affect those around us. Unfortunately, narcissists lack the foresight to make such considerations and often burn bridges quickly in life. When they do, they lack the self-awareness to understand their own role in the situation, trapping themselves in a cycle of hurt and resentment.

While prioritizing oneself can be advantageous, especially in one’s career, narcissists fail to grasp that it can also cause more harm than good at times.

Number 5: They undermine others because they can’t accept that others can excel.

Building supportive relationships based on trust and communication is essential. Celebrating others’ victories, no matter how small is a simple yet crucial aspect of this. Unfortunately, this is often where narcissistic relationships crumble. Narcissists are conceited and place themselves on a pedestal that others can never reach. When you or a mutual friend excel in something, these toxic individuals tend to find ways to diminish your accomplishments before making it about themselves.

Number 4: They can’t let go.

“Forgive and forget” is a well-known mantra. It reminds us to move on from past grievances, which is valuable advice. When you dwell on past issues, you sacrifice the present moment and hinder your ability to shake off negative feelings.

Narcissists tend to live in the moment, making them vengeful rather than forgiving when someone makes a mistake. They seek revenge, even if it ultimately harms them in the long run.

Number 3: Their fear of vulnerability hinders meaningful friendships.

One of the greatest challenges narcissists face in their social lives is their fear of vulnerability. Opening up to others can be daunting, as it entails the risk of getting hurt. Many people opt to protect themselves rather than take that risk.

Narcissists fall into this category, rarely mentioning deep and meaningful friendships, as they struggle to form genuine bonds.

Number 2: They seldom act for the greater good.

Doing something for the greater good can earn you social credit and help your reputation. It demonstrates selflessness and a willingness to help others without seeking personal gain. Looking dependable and helpful can benefit you in various aspects of life. However, narcissists often neglect such actions because they are too anonymous and lack the attention and recognition they desire.

Number 1: They seek thrills throughout their lives.

A narcissist’s life is far from boring, but it may not necessarily be a fulfilling one. They often seek drama and tension, leading to conflicts in their personal relationships. Stability and balance are usually more valuable than petty drama.

Narcissists often push away the people who provide them with support and care in favor of partners who introduce complications and chaos into their lives.