Today’s topic is the ten types of people that a female covert narcissist typically recruits into her broader circle of supply. You might wonder how these narcissists consistently surround themselves with individuals who seem to go above and beyond for them. Well, there is a method to their madness, whether conscious or subconscious. In romantic relationships, female covert narcissists generally seek partners who are protective, loyal, and submissive individuals who provide constant validation and resources while sacrificing their own needs. These partners endure her bad moods, manipulations, micromanaging, catastrophizing, and endless dissatisfaction.
1) The Flying Monkeys
The first type is what’s known as “flying monkeys.” These are people who do the narcissist’s bidding, whether knowingly or not. The covert narcissist uses flying monkeys to spread lies, harass, and isolate victims, and manipulate others’ perceptions, all while keeping her image squeaky clean. She orchestrates chaos and conflict from behind the scenes, ensuring she suffers no consequences. This allows her to smear reputations, ruin lives, and still come out on top, reinforcing her belief that she can control situations simply by manipulating others.
2) Empathetic Enablers
Next, a female covert narcissist surrounds herself with empathetic enablers—people who fully buy into her fabricated tales of hardship and self-sacrifice. These enablers provide endless emotional support, becoming a sounding board for her incessant complaints without ever holding her accountable. This reinforces her victim mentality while draining the emotional energy of the enabler. Often, empathetic people are blinded by their belief that everyone is inherently good, which makes them vulnerable to the narcissist’s manipulative and self-serving agenda.
3) People with High Status
Covert narcissists also seek out high-status individuals, often from a place of inadequacy. They may act as if they need guidance or mentorship, but their true motive is to boost their self-image through association. By getting close to someone influential, they feel more important, which feeds their fragile ego.
4) People Who Help Achieve Their Goals
Narcissists are always looking for people who will advance their personal and professional agendas. Though they may present themselves as team players, they are subtly sabotaging others behind the scenes. They create problems and competition, taking credit for others’ work and discarding people once they’ve outlived their usefulness.
5) Charismatic Leaders
Female covert narcissists often idealize charismatic leaders, particularly those in spiritual or religious roles. They see these leaders as filling gaps in their self-worth and gain a sense of superiority by identifying with them. By aligning themselves with such figures, they project an image of enlightenment, which distances them from what they consider the “emotionally unevolved” and “spiritually corrupt.”
6) People with Valuable Resources
A covert narcissist is always on the lookout for people with valuable resourcesnwhether that’s money, connections, or other benefits. Rather than viewing these people as equals deserving of respect, they see them as a means to an end. These relationships are superficial, transactional, and parasitic. The narcissist drains their resources until there is nothing left, at which point she moves on to the next source.
7) Problem-solvers & High-Functioning Codependents
Female covert narcissists gravitate toward detail-oriented problem-solvers reliable and competent individuals who become indispensable by constantly fixing the messes the narcissist creates. Over time, this dynamic turns into a toxic codependency, with the problem-solver feeling increasingly burdened and unappreciated, while the narcissist continues to create new problems without regard for the effort being put in to solve them.
8) People-Pleasers
People-pleasers, with their low self-esteem and strong desire for approval, are an easy target for covert narcissists. These individuals are often quick to apologize and take responsibility for any conflict, allowing the narcissist to manipulate them further. The narcissist conditions them to continually strive for her approval, keeping them under her control.
9) Conflict-Avoiders
Conflict-avoiders are naturally agreeable and work hard to maintain peace. This makes them more susceptible to the narcissist’s manipulations. A female covert narcissist will exploit their willingness to accommodate, encouraging them to smooth over conflicts and meet her demands without question, often convincing others to do the same.
10) People with High Tolerance for Inconsistent Behavior
Lastly, narcissists tend to attract individuals who have a high tolerance for their erratic moods and behavior. These people learn to walk on eggshells to avoid triggering the narcissist’s mood swings. Their tolerance only reinforces the narcissist’s belief that she can treat people poorly and get away with it.
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In short, female covert narcissists surround themselves with individuals who provide attention, admiration, support, or resources, while ignoring or excusing their toxic behavior. For those ensnared, this relationship often leads to emotional exhaustion, frustration, and a deep sense of obligation, with little reward.
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